I was reading an article on Essence.com.  

  http://www.essence.com/relationships/commentary_3/reuniting_with_ex-lovers_for_the_holidays.php

It was talking about getting back with an ex-lover during the holidays. 

The holidays can be the loneliest time of the year.  There are songs that inspire about Christmas.  Then there are the songs like "What do the lonely do at Christmas?"  Even if I was in a relationship that song would depress me.  Often times we resort back to what we are familiar with instead of dealing with where we are. 

It got me to thinking about my own life.  I once got back with an ex during the holidays.  We stayed together until the summer.  Then reality set in.  It had all been a waste of time.  We were going in two different directions in life. 

Looking back over my life an ex is just that an ex.  Getting back with them may be sweet for a while but whatever led to the breakup usually surfaces in one way or another.

Loneliness is a state of mind.  Being a lone does not make you lonely. 

Look at it this way. 

Why set yourself up for several things:

1.  Having to buy a gift.   Spending money that you may not have.  Also after it's over again wishing you had saved your money.

2.  The heartbreak that follows from opening up yourself to something that is not real.  We look at what is down the road instead of what is right in front of us.

3. Starting the process of healing your heart again.  This is one of the hardest things to do. 

4. Its ultimately about forgiveness.  Forgiving yourself.  The forgiving the other person.  Letting go of the hurt and not carrying it around.

The greatest thing we can do is ask God to heal our whole heart.  So that we can love again with an open heart.

When the parties come around and you start to feel down because you are alone.  Remember that you are with someone special.  That person is you. 

Falling back to an ex is not the answer. 

Falling back to you will be the best thing for this holiday season.

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