"The Lesson to paraphrase the serenity prayer: Thank you God for granting me the clarity to Honor the relationships that i can not change, the Courage to Heal the relationships that I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference." India Aire

I came across this quote from India Aire. 

It was really touching to me.

There are many relationships that we have in our lives.

We have relationships with family, friends, co-worker, church member and etc.   Some of these relationships can last a life time.  Some last for a short while.

We have relationships that bring us great joy or pain.

Realizing that there are some relationships that we can not change no matter how hard we try can be a major step in your life. 

I came to the conclusion in my own life that I can not change who a person is.  But I can change how I feel about them.  Once you accept people for who they are it takes away alot of the frustration that is associated with the relationship.

I have family members who I reach out to but they don't respond.  Instead of getting upset with them I move on.  If I want to communicate I call or send a text.  When they don't respond that is on them.  I've done my part to show love.  I honor the relationship in that way.  Everyone does not show love in the same way.

For the last year I have been working on my relationship with my father.  I wanted to be healed from this relationship so that my whole heart was healed.  So that I would be open to a healthy relationship with a man that resulted in marriage and children.

I was challanged by my coach to call him everyday for 30 days. 

I didn't want to do that.  I felt like it was not my fault that we didn't have a relationship.  I tried it.  At first it felt really fake.  As they days went by my heart started to heal.  Ultimately what I found was FORGIVENESS.

Some wounds can hurt us to the core of our soul.

We can stay in that dark hole or we can move toward healing our heart.

The relationships that we can not heal will not leave us empty.  Remember to honor that relationship the way it is.

The relationships that we can heal will only leave us empty if we don't work on healing them.

Ask the Lord to help you heal your whole heart.  Learning forgiveness will give you peace that words cannot explain.

You will then know which relationships to honor the way they are and which to start the healing process.

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Miss Rene'